Quizz.  Which one is you? Answer at the end.

"
Certain errors of thinking keep the child caught in this form of
interacting with others. This faulty thinking which set him up for a
lifetime of hurt and disappointment is called cognitive distortion.
Cognitive distortion is a faulty way of seeing the world due to severe
hurt inside. Some or all of these errors in thinking may be present to
some degree in the child who feels needy because of an inner sense of
shame:

Reality distortion and Inability to See and Hear -- The child sees
situations through his own sense of woundedness and neediness. John
Masterson, an expert in the field of personality disorders, calls this
distortion having a Swiss Cheese brain with holes where the ego
strengths (common sense) should be. The child cannot always hear what
you say because he is constantly in a state of neediness and fear of
being vulnerable. He cannot risk trying new situations that might offer
the opportunities to learn new skills. His internal shame and fears of
being found cause a selective lens of which to look through.

Mood Switching --The child's fractured self is caught in mood swings.
She may go back and forth between "I'll be good" and pouting or outrage
because she isn't getting what she wants. She becomes angry when
threatened with not getting her own way. There is a paramount fear of
being hurt and rejected coupled with denial of need and clinging to the
adult. Anger becomes a way of trying to avoid abandonment and
depression.

Poor Impulse Control and Frustration Tolerance -- The child is highly
reactive to outside stimuli that seem to threaten his sense of self and
cannot delay gratification. He wants things NOW! He can be highly
irritable and becomes upset over numerous small things with the
attitude of "I want what I want when I want it!" He can become stuck in
repeating his defensive demands that turn others away: "Take care of
me. I'm needy. I'm special. Do for me what others have not done for me.
What have you done for me lately? Give me everything I ask for or you
don't love me."

Poor Ego Boundaries and Need for Control -- The child cannot view
things from any other perspective other than his own. He is so caught
in his own neediness that he cannot feel empathy for others. He does
not have the ability to put himself in someone else's shoes. He views
others as objects to be used for his personal gratification.

Denial of Uncomfortable Feelings --The child keeps the focus on what he
wants not how he feels. His constant demanding keeps him from feeling
the pain inside. Denial of feelings is a major defense against keeping
the hurt and shame away. He turns the tables around by trying to make
others wrong for not giving him what he feels entitled to. You may hear
him say, "I don't have to talk about feelings. I don't have bad
feelings. I don't want to do any psychological work. I will make up
schemes and only do what it takes to make me to feel good. I have to
feel good at all costs!"

Frequent Anger and Rage --The child substitutes anger and tantrums as a
way of keeping her uncomfortable feelings from being experienced. She
becomes a master of rationalization and justification of her explosive
actions: "If I don't get my way, then I have the right to get angry."
Suicidal threats can be an extension of the distorted thinking-- "Stick
em up and give me what I want or I will kill myself!"

Need for Admiration --The child erroneously believes that he is special
and should be given special privileges. In effect he says, "Give me
perfect empathy. I deserve the biggest piece, the whole pie. Tell me
how wonderful I am, so I can ignore the pain inside. Don't poke my
self-protective bubble." This need to be seen as special is so great
that he cannot take in other information.

Grandiosity and Fantasy --The child spins grandiose fantasies to cover
up the internal wounds of his fractured self. He sets up elaborate
fantasy schemes of winning, becoming powerful or gaining revenge for
injustice. Daydreams of becoming rich and famous without talent or hard
work are common.

Idealization and Devaluation of Teachers or Therapists --The child will
make you feel that you are wonderful and special as long as you humor
her. "As long as you give me what I want, you are the ideal person for
me. If I bask in the wonderfulness of you, I don't have to look at my
own pain." There is generally a honeymoon period until you ask her to
be responsible for her own actions. Then you, like everyone else, will
fall from grace. "You are bad if you don't let me win."

Externalization of Blame --The child cannot allow the bad feelings of
being at fault for anything. He/she/they/YOU are the problem! He avoids
feeling vulnerable by blaming others. The fragile self esteem cannot be
punctured by taking responsibility for behavior. His script is "Do not
expose me to those intolerable feelings inside. I can't handle it."

"

Answer: all of them
Goobye, retarded loser.  Have a sh.t life.
<plonk>

Quizz.  Which one is you? Answer at the end.

"
Certain errors of thinking keep the child caught in this form of
interacting with others. This faulty thinking which set him up for a
lifetime of hurt and disappointment is called cognitive distortion.
Cognitive distortion is a faulty way of seeing the world due to severe
hurt inside. Some or all of these errors in thinking may be present to
some degree in the child who feels needy because of an inner sense of
shame:

Reality distortion and Inability to See and Hear -- The child sees
situations through his own sense of woundedness and neediness. John
Masterson, an expert in the field of personality disorders, calls this
distortion having a Swiss Cheese brain with holes where the ego
strengths (common sense) should be. The child cannot always hear what
you say because he is constantly in a state of neediness and fear of
being vulnerable. He cannot risk trying new situations that might offer
the opportunities to learn new skills. His internal shame and fears of
being found cause a selective lens of which to look through.

Mood Switching --The child's fractured self is caught in mood swings.
She may go back and forth between "I'll be good" and pouting or outrage
because she isn't getting what she wants. She becomes angry when
threatened with not getting her own way. There is a paramount fear of
being hurt and rejected coupled with denial of need and clinging to the
adult. Anger becomes a way of trying to avoid abandonment and
depression.

Poor Impulse Control and Frustration Tolerance -- The child is highly
reactive to outside stimuli that seem to threaten his sense of self and
cannot delay gratification. He wants things NOW! He can be highly
irritable and becomes upset over numerous small things with the
attitude of "I want what I want when I want it!" He can become stuck in
repeating his defensive demands that turn others away: "Take care of
me. I'm needy. I'm special. Do for me what others have not done for me.
What have you done for me lately? Give me everything I ask for or you
don't love me."

Poor Ego Boundaries and Need for Control -- The child cannot view
things from any other perspective other than his own. He is so caught
in his own neediness that he cannot feel empathy for others. He does
not have the ability to put himself in someone else's shoes. He views
others as objects to be used for his personal gratification.

Denial of Uncomfortable Feelings --The child keeps the focus on what he
wants not how he feels. His constant demanding keeps him from feeling
the pain inside. Denial of feelings is a major defense against keeping
the hurt and shame away. He turns the tables around by trying to make
others wrong for not giving him what he feels entitled to. You may hear
him say, "I don't have to talk about feelings. I don't have bad
feelings. I don't want to do any psychological work. I will make up
schemes and only do what it takes to make me to feel good. I have to
feel good at all costs!"

Frequent Anger and Rage --The child substitutes anger and tantrums as a
way of keeping her uncomfortable feelings from being experienced. She
becomes a master of rationalization and justification of her explosive
actions: "If I don't get my way, then I have the right to get angry."
Suicidal threats can be an extension of the distorted thinking-- "Stick
em up and give me what I want or I will kill myself!"

Need for Admiration --The child erroneously believes that he is special
and should be given special privileges. In effect he says, "Give me
perfect empathy. I deserve the biggest piece, the whole pie. Tell me
how wonderful I am, so I can ignore the pain inside. Don't poke my
self-protective bubble." This need to be seen as special is so great
that he cannot take in other information.

Grandiosity and Fantasy --The child spins grandiose fantasies to cover
up the internal wounds of his fractured self. He sets up elaborate
fantasy schemes of winning, becoming powerful or gaining revenge for
injustice. Daydreams of becoming rich and famous without talent or hard
work are common.

Idealization and Devaluation of Teachers or Therapists --The child will
make you feel that you are wonderful and special as long as you humor
her. "As long as you give me what I want, you are the ideal person for
me. If I bask in the wonderfulness of you, I don't have to look at my
own pain." There is generally a honeymoon period until you ask her to
be responsible for her own actions. Then you, like everyone else, will
fall from grace. "You are bad if you don't let me win."

Externalization of Blame --The child cannot allow the bad feelings of
being at fault for anything. He/she/they/YOU are the problem! He avoids
feeling vulnerable by blaming others. The fragile self esteem cannot be
punctured by taking responsibility for behavior. His script is "Do not
expose me to those intolerable feelings inside. I can't handle it."

"

Answer: all of them
Goobye, retarded loser.  Have a sh.t life.
<plonk>

Quizz.  Which one is you? Answer at the end.

"
Certain errors of thinking keep the child caught in this form of
interacting with others. This faulty thinking which set him up for a
lifetime of hurt and disappointment is called cognitive distortion.
Cognitive distortion is a faulty way of seeing the world due to severe
hurt inside. Some or all of these errors in thinking may be present to
some degree in the child who feels needy because of an inner sense of
shame:

Reality distortion and Inability to See and Hear -- The child sees
situations through his own sense of woundedness and neediness. John
Masterson, an expert in the field of personality disorders, calls this
distortion having a Swiss Cheese brain with holes where the ego
strengths (common sense) should be. The child cannot always hear what
you say because he is constantly in a state of neediness and fear of
being vulnerable. He cannot risk trying new situations that might offer
the opportunities to learn new skills. His internal shame and fears of
being found cause a selective lens of which to look through.

Mood Switching --The child's fractured self is caught in mood swings.
She may go back and forth between "I'll be good" and pouting or outrage
because she isn't getting what she wants. She becomes angry when
threatened with not getting her own way. There is a paramount fear of
being hurt and rejected coupled with denial of need and clinging to the
adult. Anger becomes a way of trying to avoid abandonment and
depression.

Poor Impulse Control and Frustration Tolerance -- The child is highly
reactive to outside stimuli that seem to threaten his sense of self and
cannot delay gratification. He wants things NOW! He can be highly
irritable and becomes upset over numerous small things with the
attitude of "I want what I want when I want it!" He can become stuck in
repeating his defensive demands that turn others away: "Take care of
me. I'm needy. I'm special. Do for me what others have not done for me.
What have you done for me lately? Give me everything I ask for or you
don't love me."

Poor Ego Boundaries and Need for Control -- The child cannot view
things from any other perspective other than his own. He is so caught
in his own neediness that he cannot feel empathy for others. He does
not have the ability to put himself in someone else's shoes. He views
others as objects to be used for his personal gratification.

Denial of Uncomfortable Feelings --The child keeps the focus on what he
wants not how he feels. His constant demanding keeps him from feeling
the pain inside. Denial of feelings is a major defense against keeping
the hurt and shame away. He turns the tables around by trying to make
others wrong for not giving him what he feels entitled to. You may hear
him say, "I don't have to talk about feelings. I don't have bad
feelings. I don't want to do any psychological work. I will make up
schemes and only do what it takes to make me to feel good. I have to
feel good at all costs!"

Frequent Anger and Rage --The child substitutes anger and tantrums as a
way of keeping her uncomfortable feelings from being experienced. She
becomes a master of rationalization and justification of her explosive
actions: "If I don't get my way, then I have the right to get angry."
Suicidal threats can be an extension of the distorted thinking-- "Stick
em up and give me what I want or I will kill myself!"

Need for Admiration --The child erroneously believes that he is special
and should be given special privileges. In effect he says, "Give me
perfect empathy. I deserve the biggest piece, the whole pie. Tell me
how wonderful I am, so I can ignore the pain inside. Don't poke my
self-protective bubble." This need to be seen as special is so great
that he cannot take in other information.

Grandiosity and Fantasy --The child spins grandiose fantasies to cover
up the internal wounds of his fractured self. He sets up elaborate
fantasy schemes of winning, becoming powerful or gaining revenge for
injustice. Daydreams of becoming rich and famous without talent or hard
work are common.

Idealization and Devaluation of Teachers or Therapists --The child will
make you feel that you are wonderful and special as long as you humor
her. "As long as you give me what I want, you are the ideal person for
me. If I bask in the wonderfulness of you, I don't have to look at my
own pain." There is generally a honeymoon period until you ask her to
be responsible for her own actions. Then you, like everyone else, will
fall from grace. "You are bad if you don't let me win."

Externalization of Blame --The child cannot allow the bad feelings of
being at fault for anything. He/she/they/YOU are the problem! He avoids
feeling vulnerable by blaming others. The fragile self esteem cannot be
punctured by taking responsibility for behavior. His script is "Do not
expose me to those intolerable feelings inside. I can't handle it."

"

Answer: all of them
Goobye, retarded loser.  Have a sh.t life.
<plonk>